Who Gets to Bring a Plus One to Your Wedding?

During the wedding planning season, one of the most frustrating questions to consider is the dreaded plus one inquiry. Simply put, the people you invite to your wedding will likely want to bring dates. On the one hand, you want to accommodate them—but you also have budget and space limitations to consider. Thus, you may find yourself untangling some tough dilemmas about who should and who shouldn’t get to invite a plus one.

Plus One Decorum

There are a few factors you’ll need to weigh, starting with the seriousness of the relationship. If the couple in question is married, engaged, living together, or in any kind of long-term, committed relationship then you really have no choice: Plus ones are non-negotiable here.

Beyond that, it’s best to make decisions on a case-by-case basis, and to use your own discretion. For instance, you may have a college roommate who’s been dating the same person for years; if she wants to bring that long-term partner, it’s probably best to oblige. On the other hand, you’re well within your rights not to extend a plus-one to your 14-year-old cousin and his summer girlfriend.

One more question you should ask: How many people will your guest actually know at the wedding? If he or she is flying in from somewhere far away and doesn’t know another soul on your guest list, it’s nice to offer a plus one so that the guest in question doesn’t feel totally alone. Yes, you always need to be mindful of your budget and your space limitations, but also of the comfort of your guests.

Make the Call

Making these decisions on a case-by-case basis may seem tedious, but it’s really the best way to consider the needs of your guests and the practical limitations of your wedding day.

Certainly, before you start thinking about plus ones, you’ll want to consider how many total people you can accommodate—and that means picking a venue. If you’re interested in touring Mosteller Mansion, we’d love to show you around. Reach out to Mosteller Events today to schedule a tour!