A Second Wedding FAQ

When you’re planning a wedding, there’s always a lot to think about—many factors to consider and priorities to weigh. If anything, planning your second wedding is even more complicated, and it can invite some tough questions.

Here are answers to a few of the most common second wedding questions, straight from some of our wedding planning experts.

Can the bride wear white to her second wedding?

The tradition of reserving white for a first wedding has largely faded; as the bride, you should feel free to pick whatever color you want, whether white or otherwise!

Is it alright to have a religious ceremony?

Ultimately, this is a question to address with your fiancée and with the pastor, clergyman, or religious leader in your life—but in most cases, having a religious ceremony is no problem at all.

Is it in poor taste to have a big wedding?

Not necessarily—though if you or your fiancée had a big wedding before, and that wedding was held within the last five years, you may want to make this one a little smaller. Also remember that there may be kids involved from previous marriages, and they may be more comfortable with a smaller ceremony.

Should you invite your ex?

It’s your call, of course, but generally speaking the answer is no, not unless you’re still on very friendly terms. You are certainly under no obligation to invite them.

Is it okay to have a bridal shower and/or bachelorette party for the second marriage?

This is a tougher one to answer. In theory, you’ve already gotten all the housewares you need, rendering a shower fairly pointless. But this is really a matter to feel out with your family and friends. If a close girlfriend or family member seems really keen on throwing you a shower or a party, that’s perfectly acceptable.

Is it alright to skip certain wedding traditions, like bouquet tosses or toasts?

Skip them or observe them—either way is fine. This one’s totally your call!

Hopefully these answers are helpful—and if you have any further questions, especially about catering or holding your second wedding at Mosteller Mansion, reach out to us directly! We’re here to help in any way we can.