10 Things to Do on the Morning of Your Wedding Day

When you wake up on the morning of your wedding day, it’s perfectly natural to feel a little jittery; to feel exquisitely happy; to be bouncing off the walls with anticipation. More likely than not, you’ll experience all three emotions at the same time.

Try not to get too swept along by them, though—because there are a few things you should do to make it the best day it can be. By all means, enjoy the morning, and look forward to the big event—but also take a few minutes for these important steps.

What to Do to Kickstart Your Wedding Day

  1. Make sure you get enough sleep. Going to bed early the night before is ideal—and if you can avoid waking up at the crack of dawn, that’s nice too.
  2. Take your clothes out of their bag. Allow your dress some room to breathe.
  3. Eat breakfast. There’s a reason people call it the most important meal of the day. Aim for something light but energizing—fruit, a handful of nuts, a cup of coffee, some water.
  4. Work out. Whether it’s a jog, a stroll through the park, or some yoga, a good workout session will give you energy for the day—to say nothing of a sense of confidence!
  5. Grab a light snack before putting on your dress. Nobody wants to get married on an empty tummy.
  6. Make sure you have an emergency kit. Pack it the night before, but have it ready to go on the morning of.
  7. Take time to be pampered. If you’ve got the time for it, a wedding day mani/pedi or massage can really have a soothing effect.
  8. Take plenty of candids! Allow your bridesmaids to snap plenty of behind-the-scenes shots throughout the day. Appoint someone to take pictures so you don’t have to. That way, you can simply be in the moment.
  9. Make sure there’s a family member or bridesmaid who has all the vendor contact info. Just make sure you know who to call, should anything not go according to schedule.
  10. Don’t forget all your “getting ready” tasks! You’d be amazed how easy it is to forget something as basic as brushing your teeth or putting on deodorant.

Be intentional in how you spend your wedding morning. Plan a routine that will put you in the right headspace. And if you need more tips for planning your big day, check out our other posts here on the Mosteller Events blog!

How to Pick the Perfect Wedding Date

Some couples pick their wedding venue first, then plan everything else around that. Others may start with a theme, a color, or a destination. For most brides and grooms, however, the preliminary consideration is the date. You pick when you’re going to tie the knot, then everything else fits around that.

As you choose your date, there are a lot of factors to keep in mind. Here’s a quick list to jog your memory.

Choosing Your Wedding Date: Some Considerations

Symbolism. Some couples may place a lot of value on picking a date infused with meaning—like, the anniversary of a first date, a first kiss, the proposal itself, the grandparents’ anniversary, etc. Even if you can’t get the exact date you want—perhaps it falls on a Wednesday this year, and you want your wedding in a weekend—you can try to get close.

Season. Weather is obviously a big factor for your wedding, especially if it’s outdoors, and it may even influence your choice in venue. There are also matters of personal preference here: Maybe you find sunny summer days to be especially magical, or maybe you prefer the backdrop of glistening snow.

Budget. Your venue of choice may be more or less expensive depending on when you want to get married; December may be pricey, but demand in January could be quite a bit lower.

Holidays. Have you always dreamed of a Christmasy wedding? A Valentine’s tie-in? Holiday weddings can be fun, but you also risk lower attendance, as not everyone will be willing to travel to a wedding on busy holidays.

Wrong dates. A final consideration: Some seasons may be especially bad for yourself or your fiancée; if one of you is a tax return preparer, for instance, then the weekend before Tax Day is probably not an ideal time for a wedding. Think through any red flags on your calendar before you commit to a final date.

When Will You Get Married?

There aren’t right or wrong answers here, of course—just some considerations to make as you consider the date that’s best for you. If you have questions about availability at Mosteller Mansion, contact us directly, as we’d love to talk with you!

How to Communicate Effectively with Your Wedding Vendors

In the weeks and months leading up to your big day, there will be many issues you’ll want to discuss with your wedding vendors. Ensuring clear communication with them is key, but it’s not always easy. Here are a few tips that we hope will make things a little bit more efficient, and a little less stressful!

Tips for Communicating with Wedding Vendors

Keep things organized. Trying to communicate with some vendors from your work email, others from a personal email, and still others from an internal messaging service can be quite challenging. Try to streamline your communication efforts, and have one central way in which you connect with vendors.

Have the right expectations. Remember that your wedding vendors are people too, and many of them are small business owners, at that. Your big day is important to them, but they do have families, other clients, and outside interests. You should definitely expect prompt communication, but at the same time, you can’t rightly expect the email you send at 2 AM to be returned within five minutes!

Keep things simple and direct. If you have a problem to address or a request to make, it’s usually best to just get straight to the point. Be honest and succinct. You don’t need several paragraphs of build-up. Just tell your vendors what you want!

Put things in writing. It’s generally best to provide written requests whenever possible—if for no other reason than it minimizes the risk of your vendor missing some of the details. Written requests simply offer clarity.

Establish contact people. To take some of the work off your own plate, you might enlist a point of contact for each vendor—an aunt, a sister, a member of your bridal party. Get some buffers around you, and some people to help you keep track of all the goings on of your big day!

Keep Communication as a Top Priority

No matter what else you do, keep lines of communication open. Remember that your vendors want to make your day special, and to help them do so, you’ve just got to be honest and direct with them.

At Mosteller Events, we’re always excited to talk with brides and with event planers. To learn more about what we offer, we invite you to contact our team today!

 

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9 Wedding Planning Details You Might Forget

When you’re planning for your wedding, it can often seem like there are a million items on your to-do list—so many that the little things can easily slip through the cracks. Of course, you don’t want to neglect anything at all, so to help, here’s a list of nine important steps that are all too easily forgotten in the hustle and bustle of wedding plans.

Don’t Forget These Key Wedding Details

  1. Have plans for all weather. It might rain on your big day—and if that happens, how will it impact your festivities? Do you have a plan B if your outdoor venue is too damp?
  2. Know how you’ll transport the bridal party. Are you and your ladies staying in a hotel that’s a few miles away from the venue? You’ll need some way of shuttling yourselves to and fro.
  3. Set up a wedding website. Even if it’s just the bare-minimum basics of your wedding day, you’ll want to have info online before you send out your save-the-dates!
  4. Know when the sun will set. A lot of brides and grooms take “golden hour” photos during the most magical times of evening light. It’s important to know when that is, or else you’ll risk missing out!
  5. Find out roughly what temperatures you can expect. You may not know exactly how warm or how cool the Carolina mountains will be during September, but you can figure out the historic temperature and plan accordingly.
  6. Arrange for a bit of extra seating. Rule of thumb: Have 20-25 more seats than you have invited guests. The reason? People don’t always want to huddle so close to each other!
  7. Appoint someone to take behind the scene photos. You don’t need to be the one taking all the backstage candids. Ask a family member to tackle this job for you.
  8. Find out about food allergies. Ask your guests before you plan the catering!
  9. Designate someone to keep your gifts and cards safe. You don’t want to carry them around with you on your honeymoon, after all. Have someone take charge!

These are just some of the key steps that are all too easily swept under the rug. Keep them in mind, and don’t leave any wedding planning step unfinished! For more advice about catering, in particular, connect with the Mosteller Events team today.

 

5 Wedding Menu Mistakes All Brides Should Avoid

We say this all the time, but it’s really true: When people look back on your wedding day, the food is one of the things they’ll remember most. Having a good menu is one of the best things you can do to ensure a fun and memorable time is had by all; this means knowing and avoiding some of the most common wedding menu mistakes.

We’ll show you what we mean, listing five common ways in which wedding meal planning can come up short.

Offering too many options.

There is a marketing principle called the paradox of choice, which basically means that, the more options you give people, the harder it is for them to actually land on one. It’s good to offer your wedding guests a few options, but too many can actually be daunting—to say nothing of expensive.

Forgetting dietary needs.

You can’t necessarily know each and every guest’s dietary needs, and it’s probably unwise to try covering all the bases. With that said, you probably do know if you have a number of relatives who are vegans, or an entire side of your family that keeps kosher, or if your mom and dad are lactose intolerant. Make sure you are reasonable in making some dietary accommodations.

Neglecting the kids.

Surf and turf may be exciting for the grown-ups in your family, but will it be exciting for your five-year-old niece? Having a kid-friendly option or two—even if it’s just mac and cheese—can really be a helpful thing for parents.

Not thinking seasonally.

Fresh strawberries make a lot of sense if you’re having a summer wedding, and a lot less sense if you’re getting married close to Christmas. To ensure quality and to keep costs down, make sure you think in terms of the season. You can always ask your caterer for guidance here, of course.

Mismatching menu and mood.

If you’re aiming for a low-key, casual, outdoor reception with a country theme, barbecue sandwiches may be perfect—but they wouldn’t necessarily make sense if you’re eating in a fancy dining room. Make sure you pair your food to the type of reception you’re holding.

With any additional questions, or to ask for our help in planning the perfect menu, don’t hesitate to reach out to our catering team directly. Contact the crew at Mosteller Events today!

Before Your Wedding Tasting…

It’s not uncommon for chefs and caterers to offer full tasting menus before your big day—allowing you and your fiancée to gather, get a feel for what the menu will be like, and make some important decisions about what you do and do not want to be included. The wedding tasting can be a lot of fun, but more importantly, it can help you ensure that your wedding day catering is exactly what you want it to be.

But how do you get the most out of your tasting? There are a few things you should do before the tasting even begins, ensuring that it’s a productive experience. Here some of our tips.

What to Do Before Your Wedding Tasting

Give plenty of clear instructions to your caterer. Are you 100 percent sure you want a steak dish on your menu? Do you absolutely hate tilapia? Are you convinced that an Indian- or Italian-themed menu is what you’re after? Let your caterer know, with as much specificity as possible.

Remember, it’s not just about you. Veal might sound tasty to you, but what if only a small handful of your guests would enjoy it? Be sure you pick your menu based on the guest list, not purely your own tastes and preferences.

Come prepared to discuss dietary needs. If you already know that vegan or gluten-free options will be necessary, let your caterer know as soon as possible.

Think in terms of the whole day. Do you plan on serving appetizers during cocktail hour? If so, you probably don’t need to serve them during the meal, too.

Invite other key decision makers to your tasting. If your mom or sister is helping you arrange the catering, and if you trust their taste buds, ask them to come along with you! Their input can be helpful.

Schedule Your Tasting Today

One more thing: Schedule your tasting sooner rather than later, and get your wedding menu all squared away. We’d love to tell you more about the catering services we can provide here at Mosteller Events. Connect with us today to set up a consultation!

6 Things No Bridesmaid Should Do

The bridesmaid’s role on the wedding day is an important one. Even if your responsibility is just to walk down the aisle, stand beside the bride, and offer love and support, you’re playing an integral part in the festivities. Of course, it is important for bridesmaids to know all the things they’re supposed to do—to be able to hit their marks and take their cues—but it’s just as critical to know what not to do.

Certainly, there are some bridesmaid behaviors that, however well-intentioned, can actually be taxing on the bride. We’ll offer a few examples of some things bridesmaids should avoid.

Complaining About How You Look

We understand that, wearing a dress and a hairstyle you may not have picked out, you don’t feel totally confident—but remember that this is the bride’s day, and she’s asked you to dress in a certain way. Let her enjoy herself!

Complaining About Costs

Buying a dress, traveling to the wedding destination… being a bridesmaid can add up. But if you’re going to harp on the cost, maybe it’s better just to decline the offer to be in the wedding party. Again, complaints just impede the bride from relishing her day.

Offering Unsolicited Wedding Opinions

The bride may ask for your honest opinion on colors, patterns, music, or whatever else—so by all means, offer it! But avoid weighing in when you haven’t been invited to. The bride may really feel strongly about a particular bridesmaid dress, so don’t spoil her fun by telling her how much you hate it.

Drinking Too Much

Certainly you should have fun, and enjoy the open bar—but also stay in control of yourself. Don’t get so tipsy that you start saying or doing things that might embarrass the bride, or that will impede you from carrying out your other bridesmaid duties.

Buying the Wrong Dress Size

A common faux pas is buying a too-small dress because you plan to lose weight—but what if you simply can’t lose weight in time? It’s better to but the right size, then worry about alterations when you do lose weight.

Planning the Bachelorette Party of Your Dreams

The problem with this? It’s not your party. It’s the bride’s. Make sure you take her preferences into consideration!

Above all: Be supportive. Help the bride to have the day she’s always dreamed of. And if you think we can help, whether with catering or venue needs, don’t hesitate to contact Mosteller Events today.

How to Be Truly Present on Your Wedding Day

Brides-to-be spend a lot of time thinking about their weddings, planning their weddings, dreaming about their weddings—but when the big day actually comes, all too many brides miss out on it completely. Oh, they’re present, of course, but they’re not always in the moment. It’s hard to blame them: The day can be such a blur of activity that truly pausing to savor things can seem all but impossible.

Even so, you don’t want to be one of the brides who looks back on her big day and scarcely remembers the details. You want to really be there for it. Here are just a few tips for making that happen.

How to Be Mindful on Your Big Day

Wear Something Comfortable.

Simply put, you’re going to struggle to be mindful if you’re literally struggling to breathe. Pick a wedding dress that you’ll feel comfortable in during the ceremony and the reception.

Disconnect from the Digital World

Turn your phone off—no, really. You don’t want all your wedding day memories to be texts or phone calls you received. Put your phone away and really enjoy what’s going on around you.

Make Sure Bridesmaids Are Snapping Candid Photos

You may fear that, by turning off your phone, you’ll miss out on some memorable behind-the-scenes photos. That’s what bridesmaids are for. Put one or two of them on picture duty.

Focus on the Senses

Here’s a little mindfulness exercise: Pause to consider all five of your senses, at various points during your wedding day. What are the smells? How does the air feel on your skin? Savor every sensual detail.

Have a Buffer

You may encounter some negative people on your wedding day. You’ll want to have someone who can serve as a buffer, protecting you from that negativity—a family member, perhaps, or even your wedding planner.

Just Breathe

Take time to do some deep breathing. You might even download a breathing exercise app to guide you. Really—it helps!

Enjoy Your Big Day

We want every bride to truly relish her big day. We’d love to play a part in that, too. Contact Mosteller Events to learn more about how we can help.

What to Bring on Your Wedding Day

Your wedding day will be one of the most significant milestones in your life—so the last thing you want is to be caught unprepared. Make sure you’re ready for anything with the following checklist.

Things to Bring to Your Big Day

Complete outfits. You’re obviously not going to forget the wedding dress, but it’s considerably easier to forget shoes, earrings, or—most likely—the shoes or clothes you plan to change into after the reception.

Wedding bands. You may task a groomsman with keeping up with these, but make sure somebody is on top of it!

Your wedding license. This is something you’ll sign with your minister/justice of the peace either just before or directly after the ceremony. Don’t leave it behind!

Printed copies of your wedding timeline. You may have it committed to memory, but not everyone in your wedding party will—so bring some copies just in case!

Payment/tips. The best way to handle this is to put vendor tips in an envelope and distribute them to relatives, who can ensure they get to the right people. If you have a wedding planner, he/she may also be of service here.

Your honeymoon luggage and/or overnight bag. Think about not just the big day itself, but the hours and days that come thereafter.

Snacks and water. Keep your energy level up throughout the day!

Your vows. If you’ve got ‘em written down, bring ‘em with you—just in case you need to refresh your memory.

Planning for Your Big Day

Now, this may seem like a lot to remember—and truthfully, it’s not a comprehensive list. One way to make things easier on yourself is to drop some of these things off at your venue the day before the wedding, if at all possible. Also, don’t underestimate the importance of delegating key tasks to trusted members of your wedding party. You should not have to keep up with all this stuff yourself!

We’d also recommend working with wedding vendors who make your life easy, and who instill confidence that they’ll make your big day go off without a hitch. We’d love to play that role, whether as venue providers or as your catering crew. Reach out to Mosteller Events to learn more about what we can do for you!

Plan Your Wedding—With Minimal Stress

Wedding planning can be a lot of fun. It can be a sweet, special season in your life. Then again, it can also be a nightmare. What makes the difference is stress. Brides who try to do too much on their own often end up overwhelmed, burned out, and completely unable to enjoy wedding planning. Learning some healthy ways to minimize stress is key—and we’ve got a few tips for you right here.

How to Avoid Wedding Planning Stress

Stay connected with your fiancée. Don’t let the hustle and bustle prevent you from being close with your beloved. Guard the time you have together. Make plans to spend time with one another, and keep them. Let that be the thing that grounds you through the wedding planning process.

Take care of yourself. Maintaining physical health will help you keep your stress in check. Get those eight hours of sleep each night. Work out—running, walking, dancing, yoga, or whatever. Spend time outside, as well, soaking up plenty of Vitamin D.

Meditate. Learning some breathing exercises or some mantras can really help you to cope with stressful situations as they arise. Don’t just laugh this off; it can really be a helpful way to control your emotions and your anxieties.

Don’t try to stifle your own emotions. While you don’t necessarily need to be having panic attacks, it’s okay to have some jitters sometimes. Wedding planning should be fun, but it’s okay for it to be a little daunting, as well.

Ask for help. Remember, in the end, that you don’t have to do everything—and that there are plenty of people in your life to whom you can delegate. And every little bit of delegation helps!

Our catering team, for instance, can take all the guesswork out of your wedding menu planning. Reach out to our team at Mosteller Events to learn more!