Real Talk About Your Wedding Planning

beautiful-1846171_1280As you begin the process of planning your wedding, it can be easy to get hearts in your eyes and big dreams in your head. There’s nothing wrong with that! Wedding planning is a time for dreaming, a time for following your heart. With that said, it’s also important to stay grounded, and focused on the practical dimensions of wedding planning.

In that spirit, we want to offer a little bit of real talk today—debunking some of the misconceptions that exist about the wedding planning process. We hope you’ll find this to be helpful.

You can’t do it all by yourself. Some brides want to be the maestros who pull every string of their perfect wedding—but if you micromanage every single detail, you’re going to find yourself frazzled, and probably won’t enjoy the process much. People are going to offer to help you, and you should take them up on it. That doesn’t mean you have to relinquish control of the big picture. It just means that, if you have an aunt who wants to help you find the right tablecloths, maybe it’s not a bad idea to let her.

The DIY route comes with risks. With that said, you should also be realistic about your own abilities, and the abilities of your friends and family members. You don’t want to end up with a horrible-looking wedding cake because you asked a friend to make it, and it turned out to be something she’s never done before. Some tasks of wedding preparation are better farmed out to professionals, plain and simple.

You don’t have to invite everyone you know. And, you also don’t have to let everyone bring a date. Yes, the more the merrier, and you don’t want to turn people down, but you do have a budget to consider. There’s nothing wrong with drawing a line in the sand when you need to.

It’s okay to say no. When your florist tries to talk you into a big and expensive arrangement that you just don’t like, it’s alright to put your foot down and ask to see something different. That doesn’t make you mean. That doesn’t make you Bridezilla.

Your wedding doesn’t have to be unique. Should it reflect your taste and your personality? Absolutely! But weddings are, by their nature, fairly formulaic. There’s nothing wrong with treading the beaten path.

Want some real talk about your wedding venue? We’d love to tell you about the perks of Mosteller Mansion, and help you determine whether it’s right for you. Contact us today to learn more!

What to Ask Before Hiring a Wedding Photographer

camera-820018_1280As with any wedding vendor, it’s important to be judicious in selecting your photographer—interviewing several different professionals and comparing their rates and their credentials before you make a final decision. If you’ve never done this before—which most brides probably haven’t—then you may not know exactly what to ask. Allow us to share a few things you should always inquire about before landing on a wedding photographer.

Do you have my date available? Obviously, if the answer is no, then it’s time to simply move on to the next photographer—unless you’re flexible on your wedding date.

How far in advance do you need to be booked? There’s probably going to be a ticking clock on when you can make your decision, and you’ll want to know it up front.

What’s your experience like? Feel free to ask these variants: How long have you been in business? How many weddings have you shot? And have you shot weddings similar in size/scope to mine?

How would you describe your style? Some photographers are more traditional; others, out-of-the-box. You’ll obviously want to know what you’re getting into!

Do you have a portfolio I can view? Ask to see some recent work.

Will you accept a list of specific shots that we’d like? Most photographers will say yes, but it’s still wise to ask.

May I have a list of references? A good, professional photographer shouldn’t hesitate to provide you with this.

What information should I provide you with before the wedding day? You’ll have better things to do than to answer a thousand questions from your photographer on the big day, so get everything out in the open right from the get-go.

What are your rates? Of course, you can and should inquire about pricing.

These questions will hopefully guide you to choosing a photographer whose work you love, whose rates you can afford, and whose style you enjoy. To learn more about wedding planning basics, we welcome you to check out the Mosteller Events blog!

Things You Shouldn’t Say to Your Family During Wedding Planning

family-216825_1280The wedding planning period can be a little stressful from time to time, and your family members won’t always help things. They are well-intentioned, to be sure, but let’s face it: Nobody knows how to push your buttons and get under your skin better than the people in your family!

As such, it can be tempting to speak to them a little too candidly, in ways that could hurt feelings or even burn bridges. What we’d advise is trying your best to be thoughtful. You can start by excising some of these phrases from your vocabulary:

I really don’t need your help.

You are perfectly entitled to feel this way, but it’s probably best not to speak it aloud—and if your family members really want to be involved, try to find a way to let them. It doesn’t have to be anything big. Just get them to help assemble gift bags, or maybe help you narrow down some minor decisions between two color schemes or floral arrangements. Your family members just want to feel like they are part of the process, and helpful to you in some way.

That’s a HORRIBLE idea!

It may be—but why hurt your poor grandmother’s feelings by telling her so? Try to fake an open mind, and just let everyone know that you’ll seriously consider their suggestions, but that ultimately you’ve got to do what you and your fiancée think are best.

Well, if our budget was a little bigger…

If your folks are footing the bill for your wedding, the last thing you want to do is come across as ungrateful—or like you are trying to guilt them into giving you more money.

You have such bad taste!

Again, you’re welcome to think it, and it may even be true—but this is the kind of comment that could lead to hurt feelings between mother and daughter, or between sisters. That’s not what you want during your wedding planning.

This day is all about ME!

The day can mostly be about you, but remember that you have a lot of friends and family members who want to come alongside you, support you, and show you how much they care. Why not let them do so?

Remember: During wedding planning, diplomacy goes a long way. Keep it in mind, but also don’t hesitate to reach out for the help you need. Contact us at Mosteller Events any time!