When it comes to planning your perfect wedding, so much of the process boils down to your own personal vision, taste, and creativity. With that said, there are some issues that are a bit more black-and-white—which is not to say straightforward or obvious! These bits of wedding etiquette can be tricky to maneuver, so we’ve listed a few of the more common questions below, along with some quick tips and tidbits.
In what order should you tell people about your engagement?
The general rule of thumb here is to tell your kids first, if you have them; from there, tell parents and family members and then close friends before making any general announcement. The big thing here is just to make sure you don’t post it to social media before you tell everyone you need to tell in person.
Does my father have to be the one to walk me down the aisle?
Depending on your family situation and your personal preference, you may wish to have mom, dad, both parents, or someone else altogether walk you down the aisle, or even to walk all by yourself. There is now wrong answer here, but do communicate with the people impacted by this decision—and don’t put it off to the last minute.
How long should guests have to RSVP?
Provide at least 15 days between the arrival of the invitation and the RSVP due date.
Should you send an invitation to people you know cannot attend?
If someone tells you they have a conflict, and you know for a fact they cannot attend, then it’s polite not to send an invitation – as the invitation presumes that your guest will send a gift.
Is it alright to skip the cake-cutting part of the reception?
The wedding cake is definitely a tradition that is alright to skip, especially if you have a preferred sweet—pie, cookies, cupcakes, or whatever else—in its place.
Is it alright to use a phone to upload pictures of the wedding during the wedding?
This answer may not be popular with some, but it’s really best to ask the couple’s permission before broadcasting any details that they may not want shared online; plus, sharing photos takes you out of the ceremony and keeps you from really engaging in it fully!
Hopefully these pointers are helpful; we’ll answer some more common questions at a later date. For now, if you have any questions about planning a wedding at Mosteller Mansion, don’t hesitate to give us a call!