When you work in weddings, as we do here at Mosteller Events, you hear a lot of crazy things—including, inexplicably, some really ill-advised comments made toward brides on their big day!
We don’t need to tell you that the day of the wedding is, indeed, a pretty big deal for the bride—and in the interest of keeping it special for her (and pleasant for everyone else), it’s best to avoid any comments that might come across as insensitive or critical.
Here are some things you definitely want to remove from your vocabulary as the bride gets ready for her moment.
“We don’t know where the groom is!” We’re not saying you need to put a tracking device on the groom, or tie him to a chair somewhere in the back of the wedding venue, but do try to ensure someone is with him just in case the bride needs to touch base, or just wants to know what he’s up to.
Anything negative about the bride’s dress. It was her choice, and she picked it for a reason! And now that the wedding day is here, there’s really nothing that can be gained by critiquing her dress anyway. (Really, you shouldn’t make negative comments about any of the bride’s choices.)
“We don’t have enough _____.” Fill in the blank with chairs, food, alcohol—whatever. Running out of things for her guests is something most brides are anxious about; there’s no need to heighten her anxiety by confronting her with problems. This is something to work out with the event planner or coordinator. Leave the bride out of it!
Any complaints from the bridesmaids. Even if there’s a bridesmaid with a bad attitude, the bride shouldn’t have to know about it. Try to resolve the issue without complaints getting back to her.
“Everyone is using their phone!” A great new wedding tradition—something we’ve seen more and more of—is brides requesting that their wedding and reception both be cell phone-free. Do your part by forgetting about texting and social media while you’re there—and even if you see other people breaking the no-mobiles rule, the bride shouldn’t have to deal with that.
Remember: It’s her big day, and you can make it more special and less stressful by saying—or not saying—certain things! And of course, working with an ace event coordinator, like the Mosteller Events team, can also help the day pass smoothly.