We’re not saying that we want anyone to get cold feet on their wedding day, but if you happen to feel some butterflies in your stomach—believe us: We get it. And you’re not alone. It’s perfectly natural and normal to feel a little bit apprehensive on the day of your wedding. It likely has nothing at all to do with your partner or your commitment to one another, and everything to do with the sheer enormity of the day.
The trick is to find some ways to cope with your pre-wedding jitters —to work around them so that you can enjoy your day as much as possible.
Don’t let a case of bad nerves distract you from all the sweet moments on your wedding day. Instead, follow some of these tips:
- Remind yourself that jitters are normal and that they are in no way a sign or an omen about your marriage! Don’t read anything extra into your nervousness. It’s just that: A bit of nervousness!
- Take a few minutes for yourself, and spend them meditating or simply reflecting. Get away from the hustle and bustle of wedding planning and reconnect with yourself and with what matters to you. Some find that creative expression (painting, writing…) or getting outside for a bit can help. Others prefer something like yoga or a quick jog.
- Remind yourself of the impact stress can have in your life, and of how it can sabotage good things—like your relationship with your fiancé. If the two of you have been on edge with one another, or if you’re less patient than normal, or if you’re not feeling particularly “frisky” or celebratory—don’t sweat it. It’s probably just stress from the wedding plans, and it will pass in time.
- Finally, allow yourself to be surprised. Remember that your day is not going to go 100 percent as you might have planned it, and that’s alright. Embrace it. Be flexible. Relinquish some control and see how much it unburdens you!
None of these strategies will totally alleviate your jitters, of course—but we hope they will help you to deal with them constructively!
Want your wedding guests to have a fun time and to remember your big day with fondness? Here’s a hint: The way to their heart isn’t through the ceremony itself; it’s through the food you offer. That’s what makes your selection of a wedding caterer so important. It is, frankly, one of the things people will remember most, and the quality of the cuisine goes a long way toward setting the mood at your wedding reception.
But with so many caterers out there, how do you pick the right one for you? A few tips come to mind.
- Start by narrowing down your selection to a list of four or five. Make your shortlist based on personal recommendations from friends or family, as well as online reviews. Once you get the list narrowed down you’ll want to go do some tastings, but frankly, you don’t have time for 100 tastings, which is why it’s best to start with a shortlist.
- Ask about cost upfront; if the caterer is simply outside your price range, or requires a deposit you won’t be able to make, it’s best to know as soon as possible so you don’t waste your time.
- Make sure your venue is open to outside caterers, and ask whether there is an approved vendor list to choose from. Note that if the venue has its own catering team—as we do at Mosteller Mansion—you can typically save money and eliminate hassle by using the in-house team.
- Always ask about special dietary needs—kosher meals, Paleo menus, what have you—well in advance, just to ensure the caterer can deliver.
- Ask about the policies for vendor meals—i.e., the meals for your DJ and your photographer—and make sure that’s factored into the total cost.
- Also think about who’s going to be at your wedding and what kind of event you’re going to have; if you want a really formal meal, then finger foods and BBQ might not make sense. Then again, maybe your guests are not a very “formal” crowd.
- Always get a full, detailed proposal—in writing—before you sign on the dotted line!
To schedule a tasting with us, or to ask any questions of the Mosteller catering team, please contact us at your convenience!